Allow Yourself to Feel

Grief is a natural response to loss, and there is no correct way to experience it. You may feel intense sadness, anger, guilt, or even nothing at all on a particular holiday. Whatever emotions arise, allow yourself to feel them fully without judgment. Cry if you need to. Revisit old photos and memories. Talk to a loved one about the parent you lost. Bottling up emotions will only prolong the grieving process.

Start New Traditions

While old traditions may feel too painful to continue after a loss, creating new ones can help provide comfort and meaning. Visit your parent's gravesite and leave flowers. Donate to a cause they cared about. Cook their favourite meal. Frame a cherished photo or make a memory box. Personalizing the holiday in a new way can help to celebrate their life and legacy.

Connect with Loved Ones

Spending time with family and friends can offer much-needed support and distraction. Share stories and reminisce about the loved one you lost. If being around others feels overwhelming, communicate your needs clearly and take breaks as needed. There is no obligation to "celebrate" if you don't feel up to it.

Be Kind to Yourself

Grief has no timeline, and healing happens at its own pace. If the holiday is too difficult, make self-care the priority. Take a day off work, go for a long walk, or simply allow yourself to feel however you need to without expectations. Avoid people or situations that insist you should have "moved on." Grief is evidence of the love you had for your parent.

Special holidays may always be bittersweet after losing a parent, but finding healthy ways to process your grief can make them more bearable. Be gentle with yourself, and know that your parent's love continues on through you.

Resources

For a list of bereavement resources in Durham and surrounding areas, visit the Central East Healthline.